Leaving your family home to go to university is not always easy. Read the advice from a first-year student and her dad to get two points of view on the experience.


Leaving home

Going away to university is always a tricky time, both for the students who are leaving home and their parents who are staying behind. We got advice on how to cope from a student daughter and her dad.

A daughter’s advice to parents, by Kerry Price

My parents drove me to uni at the beginning of the first term. That was great, but then they hung around, so it was hard to chat to the people in the rooms near mine. It’s best if you leave us to unpack ourselves.

Don’t ask us to come home during term time. There’s a lot going on at weekends, there just isn’t time.

Get another interest or a pet if you feel lonely without us. Don’t make us feel guilty about leaving home!

It is quite interesting to hear about your experiences at uni, but remember that it was a LONG time ago so don’t go on about it so much. Things have changed a lot. Now we have a lot more debt and it’ll be harder to find a job in the future.

Please don’t check up on us or our friends on Facebook. I know it’s a public site, but we have the right to some privacy.

Don’t change anything in our bedrooms. We have only half left home - we’ll be back in the holidays, so please don’t touch anything.

We’d still like to come on family holidays with you. Don’t forget to include us just because we’re not there all the time.

A father’s advice to students, by Stuart Price

Don’t complain so much about how much work you have to do. We work a lot too. You’re an adult now, get used to it.

Put up with the fact that we refused to get a dog while you were at home, then suddenly bought one as soon as you moved out. We miss you!

Just because you’re at university studying very complex subjects, it doesn’t mean that you’re more intelligent than everybody else. Don’t treat your family as if they were stupid; we’re really not.

Let us come and visit you now and again. We promise to try not to embarrass you in front of your friends. We just want to see you for a short time and take you out for a meal.

Don’t waste so much time on Facebook. You need time for all that work you have to do, remember?

We might make a few changes to your room, so deal with it. It’s great to have a guest room at last, but we won’t change things too much, promise.

Don’t forget to call home from time to time and don’t get annoyed if we phone you. It’s not pestering. If we didn’t call, you wouldn’t know that we care.

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Are you looking forward to leaving home? Why or why not?


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gianggiang 7 February, 2016 - 02:12

I never have to looking forward to leaving home, because in a temper, my mother said that she would let me go out of the house at once if I didn't obey her ! In a day, she feels annoyed some times and in those cases, I always visit my neighbor's house and even have lunch there. Okay, " moving house" seems great to me. ( A small secret : The cuisine is so tasty ?!")

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Beyza1907 17 January, 2016 - 18:16

In my opinion really I'd not like to leaving in home because my home is very comfortable,calm and funny. Also mu parents are funny . For example my father is be jokking regular and my mom is very laughing I love their

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Macaque 14 November, 2015 - 19:54

I would like to go as soon as possible for studying, but I think my parents are going to have hard time adapting to changes. I'll take it even worse probably, but I wouldn't miss a good chance when it comes to education.

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Tony2003 10 October, 2015 - 05:42

In my opinion, really,I would like to leave the house as soon as possible,because parents always shout and yelling at us.But second thought,i will not want to be older,because I want to stay with my parents. I will leave because of studying,but not leaving permanently.

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iva10 28 September, 2015 - 20:58

Not realy.But i would like to London to study in a middle school or i would like to go on a college there also.

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donya123 8 September, 2015 - 20:24

I would love to study one day in amerika. I am not sayng that germany does not have enough opportunity for teenergers but in my point of view, I think I would have more chances in Amerika then germany.

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annisapn12 28 August, 2015 - 11:24

I have many dreams, and one of them is being a student in University of Oxford. I'm Indonesian, I thought that it's difficult for me. Beause Indonesia just learning English language as additional subject not as a second language like our neighbour Malaysia.
I wish someday I'll be able to being a student over there. And by this website, i'll learn more of english language. Wish me luck^^

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Lif 26 September, 2014 - 19:52

Well, yes. I really think that this is the best way to find the succes in you future career. Why? It is easy. These universities, especially the ones from Great Britain have the best teachers, the best programme of studying and the best offers. If I compare my country with GB, I'll definitely go on with the second one. There are a lot more opportunities for me and I have always looked for the best in my education and my life.

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yuumj 27 August, 2014 - 03:59

Sometimes, I want to leave my home and live on my own. I imagined about my freedom life that I can eat anything I like, do anything I want to do and not have to wake up so early.

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AnaB 9 June, 2014 - 16:58

I've planning to go on Oxford College. I want to finish my studies where it has a lot of good choices. I think that on Oxford it has a good teaching. My parents agree with that, so after I grow to those years I would go.

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