In this short film people share their experiences of bullying. Listen to their stories and discover why they think some people bully and how bullying has changed their lives.

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Have you ever experienced bullying?

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Djolox 7 December, 2015 - 20:26

I had some serious problems with bullying when I was in the sixth grade. I love science and I love to study and learn new things. My classmates didn't like that so they started making fun of me. It started as a small thing, just a joke, but later it turned into real verbal bullying. Almost the whole class turned against me. I didn't get any support because the teachers thought that it was nothing serious. My parents couldn't achieve anything. The kids were ignoring them and continuing with their ruthless jokes. I started feeling depressed and I had headaches every day. I felt like if I was in hell. My parents were trying to help me, but as the bullying was not stopping we decided that the only solution is a move to another school. I moved to another school, and now I have no more problems with bullying.
Anyways, it will remain as an awful memory.

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Ken 8 December, 2015 - 13:19

The same thought with ginggiang! Changing school is a good decision! You don't have to stick to where you are not supposed to be there. I mean 'mottainai'! Thanks to the bullies, you can find the right place and right people to get along fine! Life is a sailing. Have you found sb to sail with??
( ˘ ³˘)♥ (´◡`♥)

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Djolox 11 December, 2015 - 12:55

Actually, I didn't only change the school. I changed the town I live in. And the town I live in now is much more beautiful! It actually wasn't that easy of a change, because I had to leave my hometown, anyways about sailing:
I live in a coastal region and I sometimes go sailing with my friends.

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gianggiang 9 December, 2015 - 10:20

Hi Ken ( konichiwa Ken - chan) :D
Thank for having the same thought with me !
Thanks to bullies, we become more stronger, but it's much greater when we don't have to suffer from bullying. We are stronger and braver, but we are lonely ! Communicating with friends and let them know our real feelings is better.

Btw, I have a question.Let me know your answer if you don't mind !
How will you feel after bullying someone ?
A) I will feel very very ashamed of my behavior, I extremely regret, I will apologize immediately.
B) I will feel nothing because I was bullied and now, I treat people the way they treated me.
C) I'll normal because faults belong to not only bullies but also victims, if they don't make me angry, I won't bully them.

Choose one answer that you agree with.

( I myself have just created this question and you can add some other answers ) !

Giangdawn

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Djolox 12 December, 2015 - 11:15

I saw this, and now I really have to reply even if it is not meant for me.
D) I would never bully a person because I hate to hurt people. I even have problems when I am defending myself. I just couldn't hurt anybody.

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Ken 13 December, 2015 - 03:01

Hi Djolox, I deeply understand what you feel….

Actually I've got a friend who has been suffering from the bully who lives close to each other. My friend is very generous and is a model student (unlike me!!), he's always willing to extend a helping hand to anyone including that dependent girl. They seemed to be getting on well as an independent + dependent relationship. But surprisingly enough, the shoe got on the other foot! The girl soon got on his high horse and gave continuing harassment to my friend. I didn't notice such a horrible thing had been happening until my friend asked me for some advice… I felt really sorry for him but all I could do was to say 'let it go, mottainai!
Eventually, I've recently heard that the bully's family has decided to get her undergo treatment for a mental disorder at the facility. It's bad about the girl, although she is actually good at studies. A lot happens…

Anyway, I don't want to hurt anybody, of course. I just recon staying away from the bully doesn't mean hurting them. Because spending time with the bully benefits nothing for nobody, on the contrary, it can end up hurting people who are on your side.
Oh…. hate becoming an adult!!

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Ken 15 December, 2015 - 07:57

Glad to hear that now you see the world in a new way!
You're so smart, aren't you?
(*'∇')/゚・:*【Discover Life】*:・゚\('∇'*)

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Ken 10 December, 2015 - 14:31

Hi Giang, xin chào!
Thank you for the Japanese greeting (actually, kon'nichiwa!) :D and your insightful comment!
Well, in my considered opinion, yes, you're totally right, but can I ask a question? You said "we are stronger and braver, but we are lonely" means you can accept suffering from bullying to distract your loneliness? Why do you feel so lonely at the cost of bad effects on you and people around you? Okay, I think to overcome one's loneliness (that's universal!) may be the starting point to stop bullying, cuz to bully is to tease someone whom the bully look down on (not from jealous!). It may be possible to think that what the bully kick around is not you but weakness in you or in the bully themselves! As you know, unfortunately bullying is common in wild animals as well. Does it make sense?? I might read too much.

Anyway, as for your question, I strongly believe that the bully is somewhat different from normal people (I mean they have a negative state of mind) and usually extremely self-centered, which is way above my head, so I would choose c)! But maybe they enjoy bullying regardless of provocation.
I might be wrong, what would you think giang?

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gianggiang 12 December, 2015 - 10:44

Hi Ken, thank for the Vietnamese greeting ( very perfect :D)

I said " we are stronger and braver, but we are lonely". This sentence is like a circle.This means "being bullied ---> stronger ----> lonely ---> being bullied---->....

It's great when you have never been bullied but I was, I had sad experiences with this problem. I myself realised that I also had faults, so I am the middle of the choice C.

Actually, when I ask you that question, I had prepare for my answer !

"Bulling is a bad behavior, I never bully everyone despite of any reasons, so I have no choice for the question above !"

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Ken 12 December, 2015 - 23:21

Kon'nichiwa! :D
Thank you for your reply about my comment.
Aha, sounds like you're stuck in the eye of typhoon...I understand that to and from circle, though!
And… well, you're right, I have had little experience of being bullied OR little did I notice the doing OR I've been just out of favor with the bullies….. so I bet you're much more attractive than me in appealing other's interest! I would love that charm point in you but never would I think to tap it for my gravanity! Cuz, I never bully everyone as well!
So if you get bullied again, why not look at it this way: look towards people who have positive impacts on you as opposed to the bully! Stay away from the bully's charm and aim high! I think that's your choice!

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Ken 14 December, 2015 - 09:10

Sorry, self-editing…..
× in appealing others' interest <- delete!
× charm point <- charms
× never bully everyone as well <-delete 'as well'
× from the bully's charm <- from the charming bully

I'm glad if anyone noticed more to correct.
ヽ(。ゝω・)ノ☆;:*

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gianggiang 8 December, 2015 - 11:41

Hi Djolox
I am sorry to hear your sad experience. It's great that you love science and want to discover new things. If I were your classmate, I would admire your wisdom instead of making fun of you like your classmates.

Science is a logical subject and students who are passionate about science always know the way to solve problems. Moving to a new school is a good way !

I hope you will find friends who have the same interest with you ! If bullying remains again, please talk to your teachers. They will help you, I am sure ( because my teacher helped me solve problems I had, now everything is great.)

Don't hesitate to tell your issues to your teachers ! Believe me !

Keeping discovering new things, your achievements will take your old friends' breath away !

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Djolox 8 December, 2015 - 12:07

Thanks, I am already a year and a half in the new school and I made a lot of new friends. The teachers in the new school don't ignore kids and help them solve problems.

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JoEditor 8 December, 2015 - 08:56

Hi Djolox,
Thank you for sharing your story here. I was sorry to read that you received no support or help from your school. Changing schools was a huge decision for you and your parents to make. It's good that you spoke to your parents about it. It's really important to speak to an adult if you have any sort of bad experiences or problems with bullies. 
Best wishes, Jo (LearnEnglish Teens Team) 

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Ken 20 November, 2015 - 23:03

I have experinced quarrels with my bro and sis whenwe were younger!! Through those experinces, we became stronger snd wiser. Hope that's not only my thought........! .............
+。:.゚(๑>◡╹๑)(๑╹◡<๑):.。+゚

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Djodja 17 November, 2015 - 14:16

Yeah I did.It was in the 5th grade when some boys bullied me and my best friend.They sayed some veary rood things and they tore our notebooks.

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iva10 16 November, 2015 - 16:27

Yes i have,.It was in the fifth or in the fourth grade,one older girl bullied me and my sister.She said some rude things about our mother and she and her brother throwed rocks at us.

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gianggiang 17 November, 2015 - 12:40

Hi iva10. I am sorry for hearing your bad experience. Don't be sad and scared ! I used to be bullied, but my classmates didn't throw rocks at me, they only talked terrible things about me. It's difficult to suffer in silence and it's not easy to talk to a person whom you can trust. I hope you could find the right way to solve your problem. I believe that the girl who bullied you will feel ashamed of her behaviour some day in the future.
Here is my advice: Be strong like Taylor Swift in the song called " Mean"

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iva10 21 November, 2015 - 14:10

Hi,gianggiang.Thank for your comment.I wasn`t sad about it but i felt disapointed because i trusted that girl.We solved that problem easy we just talked to the parents of the girl and the bulling stooped.But after that our relationship was never the same.It has some bad things about it now i can`t trust anyone and i can`t tell them what i really think.

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gianggiang 22 November, 2015 - 13:20

Hi Iva10
It is very sad when we stop trusting someone. It is like there is a space or a deep hole in our hearts and souls. You are right, after happening something disappointing, the relationship will change and it is not as good as before.
Anyway. past is past. Be happy!
Sometimes, I feel sad because of my classmates' behaviours but I believe that they will regret some day.

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Elsa007 22 November, 2015 - 10:23

Hi iva10, I'm sorry to hear your bad experience, but I think you are smart to have solved by talking to the parents. Besides, I think you are lucky! Because I know there are some parents who won't admit their kid's bullying, in fact they snap back at the bullied for blaming them! ……..
So…. anyway, put this behind one!
By the way, Iva, I'm just curious to know why the girl said such rude things to you??
If you don't mind, I'd like to know if there are a few guesses about preventing bullies for the future?
Elsa☆

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iva10 1 December, 2015 - 18:59

Thank you about that what you said it s really nice to know there is someone who cares about you.And to answer to your question,i don t know why the girl said those things because we were really good friends.After that we stopped to hung out ,but it s a bit hard because she lives near me and we go to the same school.When i see her i always remember what happened that day.

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Elsa007 17 November, 2015 - 21:41

Sharing the same thought! That's an excellent advice, giang!
I like that song, particularly this part: And all you're ever gonna be is mean….Washed up and ranting about the same old bitter things….But all you are is mean...All you are is mean and a liar and pathetic and alone in life! ♫♪
Honestly, ….I never want to be a person with a malicious look on my face! !

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