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Is it acceptable to delete friends from Facebook?

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IainG

This question is something that often seems to be talked about among friends. Most of my own friends think that there is nothing wrong with it, but others – including my mother – think deleting Facebook friends should be a capital offence.

I think the first real issue is whether or not our Facebook friends are our friends in real-life too. I know that many of mine are not: I never accept strangers onto my Facebook profile – or any other social network, for that matter. At the same time, though, I would not call many of my Facebook “friends” actual friends. I have many friends from school and university on Facebook, but I speak to very few of them. Many are people I have met only once, or are old colleagues. While I do know everybody, I really cannot claim that they are all my friends.

Every time I delete somebody from Facebook I think about how I would feel being deleted. I don’t have to imagine – I have been deleted by plenty of people. Before, whenever I realised that somebody had deleted me, I desperately searched to find out who it was. I’ve stopped doing that – I have learned that if I cannot work out who deleted me, they probably weren’t that important to me.

I remember when Facebook was still a new social network. Talking about deleting people was always done in hushed tones – it could not be spoken about openly, in case somebody overheard and was offended.

Now deleting “friends” is much more common, and often spoken about among friends (real-life ones, that is). People nowadays even announce on Facebook that they are about to delete a number of people. (This is, I think, to make you feel lucky if you are “saved”, but it often has the opposite effect).

At the end of the day, I think the answer to the question of deleting friends is quite simple. Friendships are not permanent. Very few relationships really are. Why, then, should Facebook “friendships” be permanent? I think we have to delete friends in order to reflect the realities of real-life relationships.

Deleting a few friends is acceptable, I think. There is one thing I do know, though: deleting your mother is not acceptable. I learned that one the hard way.

Discussion

Do you delete friends from Facebook or other social media? Have you ever been deleted?

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nottrankieuan 9 March, 2022 - 09:24

In my perspective, it is accecptable to delete friend from Facebook. I don't think the act of deleting friend from Facebook is rude or something.
I believe everyone must have a reason before they make a decision of deleting someone from your friend list on Facebook, that's why it is acceptable. For instance, you and those Facebook friends are barely know each other, and you want more privacy on Facebook, plus some of your Facebook friends may have different perspective in life with you and they somehow bring negative energy to you then it is totally fine to delete them from your friendlist on Facebook.
You might think that this action could make people feel offended and sad or you could loose someone that may be important in the future... Just remember the reason that lead you to this decision. This is your personal space, you are not obligated to please others.
Yes I do delete friend from Facebook and other social media. I don't think it's a big deal. I might be deleted from someone's friendlist, I didn't even notice, I don't really care about that.
In conclusion, It is acceptable to delete friend on Facebook.

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pepepopo 8 March, 2022 - 20:18

I do delete friends from social media if we do not keep in touch for a long time and have nothing in common anymore. However, it is not that important for me, friends on social media are not our actual friends and I don't really feel bad or good about the fact that they are on my "friends" list, it doesn't really bother me even if are not friends in real life.

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MIKA_2307 8 March, 2022 - 19:55

Sure it's ok, I delete them all the time because I don't want to read something that I'm not interested in.
also half of the people I don't even know, so I don't really need them on social media
mostly I just have family and a couple of friends who doesn't live in my town or country
for everything else I'm using Instagram or Viber,

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osaid_mobaideen 8 March, 2022 - 19:46

Deleting friends sometimes is actually beneficial especially if you think about it from the perspective of people you don't know that well and you don't interact with. At the same time, I can totally relate to the fact (what if it was me who got deleted?) then I'd reconsider my options and avoid deleting them.

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Mridha06 10 April, 2019 - 05:58

I think We should delete some of our friends from facebook who are not our actual friend.However,we don't know their identity. They can harm us anytime. As they are not our real friend so there will be no sympathy for us in making our life complicated. So,it is better to stay away from them. Anyway,it is better to have one friend inspite of having many useless friends who don't care about you.

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